My handphone has been busy with SMSes and calls. Which is very much expected considering The Big Story. Some were just…FYI, some were generous in their opinions, while others were downright bitchy.
To me (and my dear Husband)…we really don’t see any point whatsoever…or even why people are making such uproar over this tittle-tattle.
The basic new is – two persons are planning their marriage. Simple, ain’t it?
The superfluous spices are – She is 26 years old and single, while the man is a 52 years old married man with (?) kids. And no one is sure the number of marriages he had gone through and the number of current wives he has left. He’s a direct member of a royal family; being the brother of the current Sultan and he gave her a brand new 3-series beemer for her birthday. The first wife is gravely ill, or so has been for the last 8 years.
Why I’m not bothered? Because she has been going out with this man for 8 years, his children are aware of the relationship, she’s already on his ‘payroll’ (nice condo and nice car), the man is very much capable (financially) of providing for her and…its better to make things ‘halal’.
I’m maybe a cynic when it comes to love. I do believe in love, but love between a man and a woman has to be conditional. Unconditional love is only between parents and children…and between the humble beings and God. Love alone cannot make a marriage work. You have to have genuine respect for each other; you need to find the value in each other’s judgment and opinions and to accept each other’s flaws and imperfections.
Oklah…in short; Mills & Boons = pure bullshit.
Where do one meet dashingly good-looking single man, driving a black Lamborghini and is the founder/CEO of a large business conglomerate??
But if you find one….please tell me…
So back to the story. Oops…The Story. When I say that I don’t care nor do I mind, people’s reaction will be “But he’s someone’s husband…what do you do if his your husband??”
I don’t care but at the same time, I don’t condone either. Mainly because who am I to say or dictate a person’s life and decision? Who am I to pass a decree of life’s guiding principles? Just do onto others what you want others to do onto you. What you give is definitely what you get back in return…sometimes in ten-fold.
I will continue listening and I will be there for her, if need be. Just don’t expect me to jump in joy…
Wednesday, December 08, 2004
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I used to go out with a married men, for the sake of it and for the fun of it since I was 17. I got all the death treat emails, sms, nasty screaming phone calls from his wife. I was demoralized for years because of the humiliations. I bounced back, start all over again, and happily married to a single man. God works in a very mysterious ways, don't u think so? - YH
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if they want to get married and make it "halal", by all means, do it, that would be better. if he has the means, financially, physically and spiritually. that doesn't mean that all qualified men should do it or that your husband and i will be jumping on the bandwagon, shouting with joy. if it is someone close, it might affect you and you might want to have a word or two on the matter but then your words could fall on deaf ears couldn't it? just wish for the best then....
and oh, thank you for the birthday wish. can i expect another one on friday? :):):)
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It is always nice to have a fren who listens, especially when the whole world seems to be against u.
proud of u, "mummy"!
anyway, since i am not a believer in relationship, i won't brag about whether it is right or not.
but, put this in mind, if a man can marry a second one when the first is (still alive but only) sick, then i sincerely hope that the second one will be able to bear it when he comes up with silly reasons of having a 3rd, 4th...
my point: relationship is about decision. like it or not, we have to be responsible with every decision made!
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"Condemn me if u must, but condemn me for the sins I've done, not those I haven't" - Mills&Boon
I'm lucky to have u as my big sister and counselor, serious shit, u never look at the physical of a person, but the heart that matters, where lots of human tend to ignore and close their eyes to..
Love u lots
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