In fact, the term best advise = the advise that can really brings you out of your slums..the one that snaps you back to reality...the one that dry up your tears and gets you going again.
A real-life example - from my wise sister, Dodek.
"Why you want to care if you're spending 'enough' time with your children or not? Your children will know which one is their mother...and which one is the maid...you go ask any kids with maid...they all know-lah. All these anak sayang maid is so cerekarama one..."
It sounded a bit harsh when I first heard it. Of course I want to spend 'enough' time with my children!
But after going through a series of different maids...I realise that at the end of the day, my children will still come back to me. I'm not being arrogant about this - instead I'm giving my children (and all the children with working mothers) the credits for knowing that I'm going to work because I have to - because I've to support them, and not because I don't want to spend time with them.
And it irritates the hell out of me when the maids think that my life revolves around them and how my life depends on them.
On the other hand - God shows us the way...but its up to us to choose our directions.
Maybe it was God's way to show the truth about my maid. I can choose to keep her or terminate her. After some thinking...can I still keep her after knowing the things I knew now? Will I be able to live with my conscience if things go wrong later? Na'uzubillah...
So my precious children - Opi and Isya, the only way Mummy can do may not be the best for you...but trust me on this one. I need your support. I miss Husband so much!
We'll go through this together kids...it may be tough but you know very well that I love you with all my heart!
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Did I say those words, hmm.. luckily I'm your sister, if not got blue eyes already.. :-) Knowing Opi and Isya, I know they can distinguish which one is temporary and which is for life... they're my 'anak sedara' what....
yoo momma..
my experience with maid ya.. (so far 3..), all of them is good. 1st one (from siam mali), so-so only.. but do all the work in orderly manner laa..,
2nd one.., from medan. 1st time look at her face, i thought.. what laa my wife make a biggest mistakes.. she purposely picked the ugliest of all the 5-5 candicates offered by agency. hmmm.. it turns out.., she's good! she even recite quran very well. Ends up teching my kids to mengaji and all the Bahasa Arab subject. (I jawi also merangkak..:p)
Now the 3rd one.., fr. Jawa.. Ok laa., no issue so far. There are times, that I see certain sign of problems to come. But, need to react properly laa.. before it getting worse.
My Rule of Thumbs, senang aje :
1. No jalan-jalan around the housing area! (once they make friends, they'll start compare notes).
2. Not to play with the phone. (they will try to use, but when the bill come, ask them immediately abt the phone usage - potong gaji! - they will stop using it..)
3. Follow the roster! - I did make a duty roster, what to do, when to do for all the house work in the hose. Follow this and it would make ur life easire. I even have a menu sets for breakfast and lunch for kids
4. Treat them like 1 of the family member also - when dinner, gather everybody including maid. Like this, they're very much feels they're part of the family.
5. Weekend - spend some times to bring them to any place they want to go - buying their own thing.(Normally I go to chowkit- Jln Raja Alang there. My wife also loves to do some shopping there..)
hmm.. just relating my experience only. I don't know what's best practise to handle maid, just learn it day- by day.
Mn
Thanks a lot Mn...will try to adopt some of the rules..especially no going around the housing area.
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